Wednesday, May 18, 2016

4 things I would change about my university experience!

Hey all! Later this week (Thursday) I have a video going up on my channel that talks a little bit about my university experience and some things I would change if I could do it all over again.

I thought that this would be helpful to anyone going through university right now, but also for anyone (like me) who's finished, but still does some reflection every once in a while.

I encourage you to watch the video on my channel this Thursday (click here to be redirected to my youtube channel)! However, I also thought that it could be helpful to make a simple list of these things, for easy reading :)

Looking back on my university experience, here's a couple things I would change:

1. I wouldn't be involved in so many things.
I really wanted to take advantage of university and being involved in as many things as possible. This ended up being a downfall because I was always so busy, I often couldn't make time for other important things like school or a social life. I recommend only getting heavily involved in 1-2 extra curricular activities otherwise life might become a bit too overwhelming!

2. I wouldn't have tried to control my memories and groups of friends so much.
I was so set on creating certain memories and being friends with certain people, I didn't let it organically happen. I didn't have one group of solid friends because I tried too hard to control who I hang out with. I had many different groups, because I was involved in so much. But, I wish I had just one really close group sometimes. I recommend letting friendships organically form instead of trying to micro-manage social interactions.

3. I wish I didn't place such a "life and death" type importance on grades. 
Listen, of course you're in university to earn. And that's what you're paying for. But at the same time,  it can be very destructive to place an extreme amount of importance on grades, beat yourself up, or get depressed when you don't get a good one. There is a reason students are so heavily stressed out and emotionally affected by post-secondary education. Yes, it's important - but remember there is life after school and you are more than your grades. Remember: your grades don't denote your self-worth.

4. I wish I didn't plan out my future so heavily. 
I had my 5-year plan, and it was all contingent upon me getting into this one masters program. Surprise: I didn't get in. It literally felt like the end of my world and I had no idea what I was going to do with myself. I truly felt like a failure. Perhaps, if I had let my future be a little less planned (a little more flexible) then maybe this disappointment wouldn't have hit me like a ton of bricks and caused me to plunge into a downward spiral of sadness. I recommend planning for different outcomes and realize that you need to treat all of your possible outcomes with potential reality. (Note: I did plan for other outcomes like college programs, but I never saw them as a reality so when they became my only choice I was pretty devastated. Don't allow that to happen!)

Bottom line: YOU ARE AWESOME. Take it easy, don't control too much, work hard but remember this time in your life will pass and life will go on. Plan for a future that allows changes and believe me, everything will unfold as it should.

Are you in university? Is there anything you think you could change right now to have more of a positive experience?

Are you all done university? Thinking back, is there anything you would want to change? Let me know in the comments below!

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